“You are the melody. You are the melody that I once listened to over-and-over yet now no longer on my special playlist. You are the melody that no longer be keen on me. You are the melody that belongs to other fine ear. You are the melody that I enjoyed the most yet I don’t want to replay. Because you are the melody that ‘leads’ me to this simply-beautiful-harmony. And this is more than enough.”—*Aurelia Isabel
“Not all thinking is good or productive. Not thinking about anything at all for some time would be fine because over thinking may bring you regrets of your past and it is a ‘curved blade’.”—*Aurelia Isabel
“Don’t view your differences as problems, but view them as an opportunity for you to be with someone who will bring you out of your comfort zone. Differences can bring about a good change in both people, and they don’t always have to be problems.”—*’weird’
“What looks easy to do aren’t always easy to be done. And what looks hard to do were only in your mind. You need to step in to get used to it and able to judge. Don’t give up before you even start.”—*Aurelia Isabel
Just a Random Certain Girls and Their Dream-Type-of-Guy
Everyone knows what they look for in that special someone. Whether it is a certain physical attribute, a unique ability, or even a good wardrobe. Disney Duds, Swag Seekers, Marshmallow Monsters, Flaunting Freaks, Athletic Airheads, and Romantic Realists roam the planet in search of the guy who can live up to their expectations. As a girl in high school, I can say that I have came across each of those types. Some girls are a mix of all those categories. But there are some girls who stick to their type, and only their type. They keep a checklist close by, and if a guy doesn’t fit all the requirements, he will be kicked to the curb.
It isn’t an abnormal thing to hear a girl say that she wants to find her prince charming. The idea of a prince charming was probably planted in their brain at a young age. It’s generally after a girl watches her first Disney movies, and is introduced to a prince. They believe that this is how all men are, and fall in love with that type. This will result in the girl becoming a Disney Dud. A Disney Dud wants her guy to be a complete gentleman that showers her in unique, poetic compliments on a daily basis. They want their man to have a voice like an angel. However, what usually happens is the girl grows out of this stage when she discovers that most guys aren’t like Disney princes. So they begin to seek their modern day prince.
A modern day prince is someone who is full of Swag. The girls who look for these kinds of guys are known as the Swag Seekers. These are the girls who want a ukulele playing, dougie doing, flat bill wearing kind of guy. Finding a Swag Seeker in high school is extremely common. So the competition to get a guy who is full of Swag is tough. Once the Swag Seeker catches their man, they make sure to hold onto them tight. But their grasp is nothing compared to a Marshmallow Monsters iron fist.
Marshmallow Monsters live by a certain rule: “Act like a lady, think like a boss.” However, you’ll find that they are more fitting for the boss side rather than the lady. A Marshmallow Monster likes to wear the pants in the relationship. They would prefer a marshmallow for a boyfriend rather than a rock. The reason for this is because they want to be able to push their boyfriend around. When you see a boy carrying around a purse, and following a girl close behind, you’ll know that that girl is a Marshmallow Monster.
Seeing a girl run her boyfriend around like that will catch eyes. But it’s nothing compared to what a Flaunting Freak does. A Flaunting Freak wants to be the center of attention. They love turning heads, and having people watch as they perform for the crowd. A Flaunting Freak wants a boy who will display affection, regardless of where they’re at and who is around. These girls often have this mindset that people are jealous of the affection that they from their boyfriend. They believe that people watch and comment on their actions because they truly envy them. However in reality this kind of behavior is frowned upon.
Another thing that is very frowned upon is when someone likes someone because of their looks or dates them just to benefit their own reputation. This is what an Athletic Airhead does. Everyone knows who the male athletes at school. Having one of them as your arm candy is a real easy way to get yourself noticed. Not to mention it could also put in a good word with other guys. Athletic Airheads look for ways to promote themselves. They also look for the boy with the washboard abs and arms/legs to match.
All of those types are missing one vital thing that even starts a relationship. Sure, the actions, looks, and qualities are nice to have. A Romantic Realist is the rarest of all girls. You can ask them what they look for in a guy, and they will name some of the other things that the previous categories want. But what makes them stand out is the fact that they will mention that they want someone who will like/love her for her. They will be able to return her feelings.
Today in society, it’s all about the looks and what you can do. When you ask a girl what she wants, she is more prone to list off qualities/traits/actions and she will ignore the one key thing that even starts a relationship. The feelings. The true, genuine, sappy love. In modern times, what’s in the heart isn’t considered important enough to say.
It could be about love, parents, friends, schoolmates, etc. The thing about conflicts is that sometimes it brings the people involved closer or it separates them. In life, one way or another we will be able to come across conflicts, it could be numerous or just one.
There are times wherein we lose ourselves in the argument that we are able to release hurtful words. Words are very powerful, even actions can’t block them and sometimes this is also the ultimate source of conflicts. We have to keep in mind that what we say reflects our feelings or even ourselves. Keeping your mouth shut is better than talking without a backbone in it.
Thing is.. In love, life, family, friends, etc. the conflicts are all the same. We can’t avoid them but we can make them a stepping stone into building a stronger relationship.